Five life lessons that I have learned –
1) You can not please everyone.
Personally, I have seen that people have bizarre expectations. A lot of people are hypocrites and someone or the other will always get offended by what you do. Might as well do what makes you feel comfortable, happy and healthy.
2) Actions speak louder than words.
If there is something you wish to do, then do it first and talk about it later. Its always more fun listening to real-stories than the imaginary ones.
3) Life is short.
Great if you are adventurous and into daredevil sports but do not risk others lives because they might not recover from it. Ever! And if you are forced into doing something that you don’t feel comfortable doing or don’t have the nerve for then be strong enough to say no, doesn’t matter if they call you a coward – I have experienced this firsthand, I broke my tailbone just because someone forced me to skate, it took me more than a year to heal from the injury, I had to take painkillers for one whole year otherwise the pain left me in tears each night. I didn’t need to skate to show I wasn’t a coward, I just needed to trust my intuition and should have said ‘go to hell‘ (or whatever words I use when I am angry) – being aggressive/ vocal and upfront about what we want and do not want to do is much more courageous. Life is short. Do not make it shorter by being foolish.
The above does not apply just for adventures but anything in general. Remember you are an independent person, free citizen of a free nation. You alone are responsible for your health, well being, mental well being, people you want to hang out with or any decisions that you make. People will try to use bad-harsh-unpleasant words, thinking you will be manipulated that way. Let people bark. It doesn’t matter. Trust your intuition. Stand up for yourself and if it comes to that then yell, scream make sure that you are heard and there are boundaries that people do not dare to cross.
4) Financial Independence is important.
Until you are dependent upon someone else for your ‘survival’, you will never truly be your own person.
5) Happiness is a choice.
And that means one needs to choose what we do in our lives, with our time, who do we hang out with, the kind of lifestyle we live – it is all a choice, happiness is a choice.